I have always been a very anti-confrontational person. So much so that when my husband and I were first married and had a disagreement, I would lock myself in the bathroom with pen and paper to write out my thoughts and feelings on whatever the argument was...literally (I had issues, I know)!
Fast forward 15 years and 2 kids later.
Apparently, I've passed these traits down to my kids (parenting win, once again). When my son is upset about something or thinks he's been treated unfairly, he'll write us a note about it, throw it in the room where we're at and take off running. Fabulous, I've taught my child how to literally run from confrontation. Very healthy, I know.
I also get notes from my daughter when she wants to tell me her innermost thoughts. For instance, just the other day I got a note that went something like this:
"So me and (insert name of boy that she likes) relationship is fading. My boobs are getting big."
Stop what you're doing right now and say a prayer for my ability to mother her through adolescence...seriously! She's SEVEN!
She's convinced that puberty is right around the corner and wants to have discussions nightly about this topic. Thank heavens that I've read all of Sally Clarkson's books and have been encouraged to listen to my kids when they start to open up at bedtime no matter how ridiculously tired I am.
Oh sweet girl, just as your brother has inherited running from confrontation from me, you will most likely inherit being shaped like a boy until about the time you go to college. Sigh.
"What is the bright side of all of this?" That is the question that I've been asking myself over the last few weeks. I AM truly thankful that my kids feel that they can talk to me about anything and everything, since that is a culture that I've always wanted to create in our home. But I'm realizing that with all of their questions and feelings, I'm drawn to God even more because frankly, most of the time I feel so ill-equipped to give them answers that ooze with wisdom.
This parenting thing is hard!
Thanks so much for visiting. I'm Heather. I'm a wife, mother and educator who loves trying to make beauty of the life around me.